The other day Ezzy and I were having an argument about who knows what. Actually no I just remembered - it was about communication of course :) I was already on my way out the door to walk to the shops when something came up just as I was leaving.
For some reason I was already frustrated and had zero patience. I think we were both just really tired and snappy and started being ridiculous. We were being dramatic saying things we didn’t mean, and I got so frustrated I just walked off because I really wasn’t in the mood. Now as I walked out the front door, I actually can’t remember whether I slammed it behind me (so dramatic I know) or if the wind blew it shut, but this is so not how we usually ‘argue’. I kind of felt bad and wondered if I should turn around and fix it before leaving the house, when Ez yelled from inside the house “And don’t come back!”
Now before you think oh my goodness what a horrible husband and these guys need counselling, we both knew it was a total joke, and he was just looking for my response - which he got (and always does). I burst out laughing at how ridiculous we were being, but I didn’t know if he heard me laugh or not. Just to make sure he knew I knew he was joking, he opened the door and said “and take your dog too” at which out runs Hamish keen as ever to come chasing me down the drive way. We both had a good laugh, I brought Hamish back in the house, we apologised, kissed and made it better and off I walked happy as ever, rather than crabby the whole afternoon.
This whole situation made me reluctantly realise how lucky I am to have a husband who sees the humour in so many situations. I’ll say straight up it’s more often frustrating than not when you are trying to be serious, but I love that we don’t take ourselves too seriously, and that in times when it’s crappy for no reason, we can have a laugh instead of a whole afternoon of bitterness, glares and big sighs of frustration.
So next time you’re having a ‘heated discussion’ with your partner, make sure you check yourself before you wreck yourself (I couldn't resist), and decide if it’s worth ‘wrecking’ your whole afternoon for, or if it’s something you could easily work out and hopefully have a good laugh about either in the moment or later on.