After interviewing Matt & Ash last week, one of their comments really got me thinking. They were telling their story of how one of their favourite dates was going on an adventure together to a waterfall, and on the hike back it started pouring with rain. Once they got back to the car they lost the car keys, and spent the next half an hour in the pouring rain, soaking wet, standing in the mud trying to get back into the car. I was quite perplexed as to how this was one of their favourite dates, but it all makes sense when you find out they had their first kiss before all the drama unfolded.
When you are 'young and in love' everything can feel like an adventure. Things that may normally frustrate you or put you in a bad mood, are somehow made enjoyable and can be some of your fondest memories. But unfortunately, for many of us, we can lose that sense of wonder, and become so use to being in a relationship that we take our partners, and even life for granted.
I was imaging myself in that situation of being stuck in the cold, pouring rain, and these days I can't imagine I'd be 'happy' about it...quite the opposite really. But I can also imagine being in that same situation while we were dating, and I can see how I wouldn't have minded so much because everything is 'new and exciting and an adventure'.
So why do things change? Is it because we just want to try and impress someone when we are getting to know them? Is it because there are so many new emotions and your feelings for the person override your feelings about being stuck in the rain? It's so interesting because you can look back so fondly on your dating days, but at the same time I personally wouldn't want to go back because it would be like starting from scratch again.
I love where Ezra and I are as a couple. We have come SO far since when we were dating, and honestly we still have so far to go, but I love every step of the journey, and don't ever want to be looking back wishing life was still all butterflies and warm fuzzy feelings. At the same time though, I don't ever want to lose the wonder of those dating days where you naturally chose to see the positives rather than the negatives. I want to be a person in all aspects of life that chooses to see the positives, and make the most out of every moment. And it's as simple as making a choice.
Life is a series of choices, and you are the only one in control of your emotions and how you act. So challenge yourself this week to find wonder in the simple things, rather than getting frustrated when things don't go your way. Be grateful for whatever stage of life you are in, and rather than take it for granted, realise how blessed you are and focus on the positives.