So if you follow me on Instagram, you would know that the other week Ezra and I got to go on an adventure to Bali! Neither of us had ever been before, and though we had so much advice and recommendations, we still didn't really know what to expect. All I wanted was to get some sun, the rest didn't matter that much to me, but Ezra is someone who loves to experience the culture, and more importantly the food, when he goes travelling. So overall it was such a great holiday and time away to relax , but we both had to learn to adjust even the little expectations we did have, so that we could have the best time away, as well as be the best company we could be for each other.
I think the biggest thing which we tell people is that it's very 'Australian' over there. For starters there are Aussie's everywhere, but especially all the food (in Seminyak where we stayed) is catered for Westerners. So the biggest and hardest thing that Ezra had to adjust to, was the fact that there were hardly any traditional Balinese places or stalls to eat at - or just the fact we had no idea where to go to get it. And though it's cheaper than Melbourne, it's not as cheap as going to Malaysia or Thailand.
The adjustment that I had to make wasn't as significant because it didn't last long, but the first morning we woke up...it was pouring with rain! I was devastated to say the least. I was going to be hating life if it rained the whole time we were there, as all I wanted was the sun. But I was making a really big effort to just adjust to the situation, and be OK with the fact that even if it did rain the whole time, we were still on holidays, getting a chance to relax and explore a new country.
Considering the rain stopped in less than 30 minutes meant I didn't have to make that much of an effort to change my attitude and be flexible regardless of my expectations. But for both of us, adjusting to the whole food and culture situation - if we didn't adjust within the first day, our whole trip could have been miserable. And it just made me realise how important it is to be someone who can adjust to different situations, and make the most out of what you've got.
We ended up having a great time away, and loving all the different places we got to explore. But if we held on to the fact that 'we thought it was going to be this or that' then we could have both just been miserable company for each other all holiday. And this applies to not just holidays, but literally every single day of life. If you're expecting the best coffee on a rainy day when you just need a pick me up, and it's burnt and cold and just a terrible coffee... for some people that can ruin their whole day. Try to be someone who regardless of the situation, regardless of what your expectations were, be someone who is flexible and willing to adjust.
This is for singles and couples all the same. Nobody wants to be around someone who is a sour puss just because their reality didn't match their expectations. Constantly be a person who is flexible to change, and can be happy regardless of their expectations.