So let's be honest, last week was a MASSIVE week for both Ezra and I, which for starters is why I am posting so late on a Monday. We were at KFC at least every second night for dinner, as cooking was the last thing on our minds. Our house lacked a bit of TLC, and on top of that our dog Hamish did a poo inside, probably rebelling because we didn't have the time to walk him. So that was a great finish to the week. Not.
But although it was such a hectic week, it was also an incredible week! Our church held a conference called 'Closer' and Ezra and I both had the incredible privilege to serve and be a part of all that was happening. Leading into the week we both knew it was going to be a big one, which is why we were both so 'ok' with things not being 'all together' at home. We were chatting today how we probably could have planned better food wise (go figure) but other than that, we were able to be 'fine' with not much productivity happening outside of conference.
It almost helped in this circumstance that we were both as busy as each other, because we could equally understand and just tell each other 'don't worry about it' until the week was over. It wasn't one person getting frustrated at the other because things weren't being done, it was a mutual understanding that it could just wait a couple of days. The only unhappy individual was Hamish, apparently, but today Ezra took him for a walk and he has let us know he forgives us and loves us again. We even bought him a new ball.
I would say the secret in a relationship when you have big events or weeks coming up, is communication. Not really a secret is it? Well I would say communication as well as understanding. Like I said it was good this time round we were as busy as each other, but it now lays the foundation that if next time only one of us is crazy busy, the other has that understanding, and can step up without making the other person feel guilty. They can be more of a support rather than an extra stress to the person who already has so much on their plate.
So if you and your partner have a big week or even a few big months ahead, it's so important for you to both communicate, and come to an agreement of how you want things to work. For Ezra and I, we both communicated and were fine to let the ball drop in a few areas, so we could really focus on the things we wanted to. We wanted to be the best versions of ourselves for the conference, as that was the most important thing for us that week. This was actually a big thing for me, and Ezra had to keep telling me that I needed to rest. And not just physically rest, but mentally rest. I would want to try and cram as many things as I could into my night or early mornings, but he had to keep reminding me I needed mental rest as well, or I would be useless either way.
So figure out and communicate as a couple what are the necessities, and from there, it's ok if not everything else is done. Focus on what's important, and if necessary, hire a cleaner - which is what we may or may not have done today.