Ok so I may or may not have left my blog until the very last minute… again.. and so here I am on the floor of a chapel writing my post in between a wedding and a reception I was at last night!
Maybe I need to start taking Ezra’s advice and actually get pre planning and not leave my posts until the last minute. Don’t you hate it when your partner is right? The 'I told you so' moments are the worst. Whether they are actually verbalised or not, it doesn’t matter, nobody likes being wrong - well I know I don’t anyway.
Something else I don’t like is when you are trying to tell your partner all the dramas in your life, and all you want is for them to listen and agree. Is that so hard to ask? Apparently so…guys are just ‘fixers', they always want to find a solution. These days if I’m just wanting to vent to Ezra, I have to clearly verbalise to him ‘I don’t want a response or answer, I just want you to listen.' It’s not that I don’t value his opinion - because most of the time he is correct (very frustrating) but there is a time and a place, and sometimes us women just want to talk - shock horror I know!
So this happened the other week where I wasn’t really looking for a response from Ezra, but I got one that really smashed me - in a good but hard way. Life has been pretty hectic the last few months, and I’ve been struggling to find routine in the day to day. It was one morning where we had both slept in (again) and so it was a rush to get ready for work, eat breakfast, feed the dog, change my outfit 3 times..just the usual. And so in the car on the way to church I said to Ez, ‘I’m really struggling to fit my devotions into my day lately’. Expecting him to be sympathetic and tell me ‘It’s ok, life’s busy, blah blah blah’. Something like that. But instead he looked at me without skipping a beat and said, ‘I think that’s your problem right there. The fact that you’re trying to ‘fit God in’ to your schedule is all wrong. He should be your number 1 priority and everything else works around that’.#boom
I was frustrated as ever of course. How dare he. How rude. How insensitive…How incredibly…accurate. It was one of those moments I knew he was right, but didn’t really have anything to respond with because…well, he was right. Those words haven’t left me, and it gets me thinking about all areas and priorities I have in my life, and what do I potentially need to readjust.
What is it that you have been procrastinating for too long?What is it that you keep pushing aside, and saving for later, when really it should be your first priority?
It can be incredibly confronting to think about, but so important to refocus, and start prioritising the things that are really important in your life. Life will always be busy, and life will always be changing - so make sure you never loose sight of what’s really important in your life, and work your world around those things, not just trying to squeeze the important things in. Whether for you that is spending more time with God, spending more time with your children, or just giving yourself time to rest in the craziness of life.
Make sure you figure out what your priorities are, and verbalise them with your partner to get some accountability for it. Once you've done that you will need to be willing to hear their advice, take it on board, and take no offence.