So last week I spent some time away in Sydney at a women's conference called Colour, it was so much fun and a great time away. I came back feeling refreshed and tired all at the same time, and of course I missed Ezra. I do feel bad because Ez doesn't sleep as well when I am away, but anyone who knows me knows I can sleep pretty much anywhere, any time, so I had great sleeps all week long - sorry about that Ez.
Ez is almost too good a husband while I am away though. He wants to make sure I enjoy myself as much as possible, so he barely calls or texts unless I contact him first. He is always just saying how he wants me to enjoy my time away, and be in the moment rather than trying to call and 'check up on him'. While I'm writing this I am wondering if if he is actually a genius making me think he's the best husband, when really he is free for a week to do whatever he wants with no nagging wife? Hmmm....Anyway I was going to say he's a real sweetie like that, but sometimes I do think 'Seriously you can call every now and then'. I do want to know he is alive and he actually misses me after all. Don't worry he does reassure me he misses me, but then again of course he would say that. Ok I really need to stop getting distracted and get on with what I'm trying to say.
While I was away it got me thinking about other times we have been apart since being married, or even dating, and to be honest I think time away from each other can be a good thing. You know the saying 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' or 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone' - I so agree! Not that Ezra is gone forever (that sounds a little over dramatic) but just that sometimes when you are with a person all time time, you get so comfortable and use to them being there you take them for granted. Sometimes you don't even realise you need some space or time apart, and sometimes it's so glaringly obvious you have no idea why you didn't do it sooner. Either way I think time apart is healthy every now and then, especially if it means you get to spend quality time with your close girl friends (or guy friends) and continue to strengthen friendships outside of each other.
In saying all that though, it's crazy how your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend is the one person you can spend endless amounts of time with. They can drive you crazy, yet you still want to be around them. You all know what I'm talking about right? Well I feel like that's the case for me, most of the time anyway. For some reason I have such a higher tolerance for Ezra than any other person I've ever known. Somehow, we just get each other, I guess that's what love is all about right? Choosing to be with someone through the ups and downs, whether you're having the best time or you're crazy frustrated at them - you want to be with them, you're in it together, and it's all just part of the journey in figuring out how to do life together.
I hope this blog post isn't too all over the place, but pretty much all I'm saying is make sure you give your partner freedom in your relationship. Obviously there are limits and you need some accountability and knowing what each other is up to, but when your boyfriend or husband is having a boys night, let him be with the boys. Communicate before the night begins so you both know what the plan is, and then make sure you have just as an enjoyable night yourself. The same obviously goes for girls nights, trips away, whatever it may be communicate before hand, so you can both enjoy your time apart. That way you will look forward to seeing each other even more after you have spent some time apart.